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Well, he shoved me…. We had gone through plenty of rough times. Tried to leave 8 months ago after his drunken rage (broken glass, holes in the walls and doors). Of course, he would “do anything” and gave up alcohol. No rage-fests since..
A few months go by, and I find myself miserable. I’ve documented time and time again he has cursed at me or called me names. I tried leaving, again “I will do anything, stay!!” And I realized, to be fair, I didn’t communicate to him a clear boundary: do not curse at me, do not call me names.
Boundary setting is important, and I am not willing to accept poor behavior anymore.
We go on vacation, de-stress. Life is good. Then one day, I express to him how I am burnt out of my job and interested in something with a better work-life balance. He throws a fit. Calls me arrogant and a selfish brat (over and over and over), says he has no voice in our marriage; I realize that this conversation isn’t going anywhere, so I say “this conversation isn’t going anywhere right now, so I am going to bed.” I get up and go to the guest bedroom.
He follows me.
I say “please go to bed.” He won’t. I just keep having to repeat myself. Then I try to leave the room. He stands in my way. I try to go to the Right, to the Left, to the Right again— then he grabs my shoulders and shoved me back.
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He then goes into pleading mode, saying “sorry sorry sorry” despite me still begging him to go to bed.
We’re done aren’t we? That line was crossed. I just actually had hope that it would be okay… it was starting to feel happy— despite not facing any trials/disagreements in the “happy times.” But I laid out boundaries, and that was crossed.
Is it done? Idk. Thoughts?